# Emma Thorne Lees

> Empower You.  Personal coaching.


## Posts

- [The Expat In-Between No One Prepares You For](https://emmathornelees.com/the-expat-in-between-no-one-prepares-you-for/): No one really talks about this part of living abroad. You picture the move/this stage of life – the light, the space, the lifestyle. The version of you who feels more free, more alive. And in many ways, that is what you create. A life that looks good. A life you chose. But somewhere along the way, something shifts. It can happen in month 1, year 2, 9 or move 1, 3. Even some or all of them. Not dramatically. Not in a way you can easily explain. Just a quiet sense that you’re not fully there in your own […]
- [When Did Our Phones Become the Boss of Us?](https://emmathornelees.com/when-did-our-phones-become-the-boss-of-us/): I am sure you have had a similar experience when you have been out for dinner and noticed something quietly heartbreaking. At the table next to us, four friends or a family sat together. Food arrived, drinks were poured… and within minutes every single person had picked up their phone. Scroll. Tap. Scroll.Someone laughed at something on their screen.Someone else quickly checked a notification. The strange thing? They were all physically together. And yet… somewhere else entirely. Most of us recognise this moment, not just to judge, but because we’ve been there and lived it. If we are honest it […]
- [The joys of cold water?](https://emmathornelees.com/the-joys-of-cold-water/): I have always loved swimming in the sea. Maybe it was something to do with growing up in London and the excitement of going to the beach as a kid. Maybe it is because I am a water sign, Scorpio and feel drawn to it. Maybe it is just my happy place, where I feel alive. To be honest it doesn´t really matter. But I do feel the need to explain a bit since it has become so fashionable to be a sea or cold water swimmer in recent times. For which I am grateful as it has kind of […]
- [Midlife at the Crossroads: Control, Fear and Choosing Your Next Chapter](https://emmathornelees.com/midlife-at-the-crossroads-control-fear-and-choosing-your-next-chapter/): There’s a moment in midlife that many women recognise but struggle to name. It’s not dramatic.It doesn’t always arrive with fireworks. It feels more like standing quietly at a crossroads, looking down two roads – and realising you can’t keep walking the same one in the same way. I have shared a few posts about the Japanese concept of Konenki – the renewal or rebirth years. A threshold rather than a decline. And this is where the idea becomes deeply personal. Because standing at a threshold sounds poetic. Standing at a crossroads feels uncomfortable. Especially when control starts to wobble. […]
- [Konenki: Menopause as a Threshold, Not a Decline](https://emmathornelees.com/konenki-menopause-as-a-threshold-not-a-decline/): Menopause and perimenopause are often framed in Western culture as something to fix, fight or simply endure. Hormones decline. Energy dips. Tolerance lowers. We’re told to brace ourselves. But in Japanese culture there’s a different word: Konenki. Konenki doesn’t translate to “problem.” It means renewal years – a natural phase of reorientation. A threshold. Not a downhill slope.A doorway. In this understanding, menopause isn’t about loss. It’s about energy shifting from outward to inward. From doing, proving and pleasing…To meaning, truth and alignment. It’s the moment when what used to work quietly stops working. The coping strategies. The pace. The […]
- [Seeking Clarity for 2026?](https://emmathornelees.com/seeking-clarity-for-2026/): What are you most hoping, planning, aspiring for in 2026? If you are navigating change, uncertainty, overwhelm at times, maybe stuckness. I have just the Christmas present for you! You don´t need more stuff! You need some one-on-one support and guidance to ditch what no longer serves you, reconnect to you, your self-trust and start 2026 strong. These one-on-one personalised sessions with me will focus on getting to the core of what is going on, who you are, what you want really want. To find more clarity, alignment and freedom. This is a special pre-Christmas package available until 21st December […]
- [Navigating a Difficult Holiday Season: A Gentle Guide for Those in Transition](https://emmathornelees.com/navigating-a-difficult-holiday-season-a-gentle-guide-for-those-in-transition/): The holiday season can bring bright lights, festive music, and warm traditions – but for many, it also brings loneliness, grief, and heavy emotions. If you’re navigating Christmas as a divorcee, mourning a loss, or simply feeling overwhelmed by this time of year, this post is for you. I recently appeared on a radio show where we spoke about exactly this – about loss, transition and inner resilience. What follows are reflections and practical suggestions to help you find calm, strength and gentle renewal through the festive weeks. 🌱 Acknowledge What’s Real — Give Yourself Permission to Feel 🔎 Create […]
- [How to enjoy the holiday season without the stress, overwhelm, ´hangover´!](https://emmathornelees.com/how-to-enjoy-the-holiday-season-without-the-stress-overwhelm-hangover/): How to have a more mindful or conscious holiday season that won´t wreck your mental or physical health. As the holiday season approaches, midlife women often find themselves navigating a whirlwind of festivities (including organising it all), delicious treats, and celebratory libations. Yes, it is also a time for joy, celebration, family, but, from my experience, we can end up overdoing it.  All this can negatively impact our physical or mental health and not do any favours for our relationships either (including the one with ourselves).  Cultivating a mindful approach throughout this time whether it is in relation to how […]
- [Introducing Sober Socials on the Costa del Sol!](https://emmathornelees.com/introducing-sober-socials-on-the-costa-del-sol/): – Non-drinkers, not boring– A space for a buzzing sober scene– Connecting like-minded women Join us (me, Emma, and Louise Hazleden) and our fresh new community for like-minded women to connect and have fun on the Costa del Sol – all alcohol free. Whether you are doing Sober October, sober curious or not been drinking for a while – we have just launched our first buzzing event – Mocktail and Mingle – Thursday 23rd October 7.30pm at Panorama Beach Club, La Cala de Mijas. Tickets are just 20 Euros and include a mocktail, soft drink, nibbles and a donation to AECC for […]
- [Fresh Season, Fresh Habits: Secrets on How to Create Routines That Actually Stick](https://emmathornelees.com/secrets-how-to-create-routines-that-stick/): There’s something about the shift in seasons that makes us pause. Whether it’s longer evenings, cooler/warmer mornings (depending on where you are!), back to school or simply the sense that time is moving on, many of us feel the nudge to reset. For midlife women especially, a change of season can be the perfect invitation to create new habits – ones that feel aligned with who we are now, not who we used to be or who others expect us to be. But here’s the secret: the real starting point isn’t the habit itself. It’s your vision, values, and why. […]
- [A New Season: Pause and go gently...](https://emmathornelees.com/a-new-season-pause-and-go-gently/): As we edge towards a new season, a fresh academic year (whether you have kids or not), it can bring up some mixed feelings for women at any stage of life, but perhaps more so in midlife. It certainly is for me….. Some resistance, even bracing, around the day to day routine and juggling of it all.  Some gratitude for a break over summer and a different rhythm. Some grief as my eldest will have his last first day of school next week.   Some hope to continue feeling more open, expansive and calm that I have felt much of […]
- [Recalibrating in Midlife](https://emmathornelees.com/recalibrating-in-midlife/): Have you ever wondered, Is this it? Maybe the kids are grown, maybe facing empty (or open) nest, your career has shifted, or you’ve simply outgrown the version of life you’re living. But what does it really take to start over in midlife…. and how do you know where to begin? I am sharing a recent interview below I did with a coach and realtor on the Costa del Sol, Sandra Laurie about how we can navigate identity shifts, burnout, and life transitions – whether that means moving to Spain, changing careers, or reclaiming space for yourself. Together, we explore […]
- [The Secret to Surviving Uncertainty (like Waiting for A Level Results) Without Losing Your Mind](https://emmathornelees.com/the-secret-to-surviving-uncertainty-without-losing-your-mind/): What exam results, job offers and life changes have in common and how can we navigate them. We’ve all had that moment and many adolescents and their parents are sitting in it right now in the UK (and elsewhere, including us in Spain) waiting for A Level or GCSE results (16-18 year olds). The exam is over. The interview is done. The application is sent. Now, you wait. And in that waiting, your brain can become a 24/7 disaster film director – imagining every possible outcome (usually the worst ones first). Why We Struggle with Uncertainty Uncertainty is uncomfortable because […]
- [Summer Fun - Feeling Expansive and Free!](https://emmathornelees.com/summer-fun-feeling-expansive-and-free/): I have taken a bit of a break recently, particularly from social media, to take some space and come back to me. Practice what I ´preach´, so to speak. I am experimenting being back on socials with something a bit different for me. Focusing in on what brings me joy, into my senses, feeling expansive and free. I have realised the word ´joy´ initially made me think of when I have to feel like I am jumping up and down for it or being ecstatic – which was restrictive and limiting me to experiencing it more! Joy can be so […]
- [Coming home to me as a midlife expat](https://emmathornelees.com/coming-home-to-me-as-a-midlife-expat/): The theme of home has been coming up for me a lot recently, as in what makes a home, how do you create and/or feel at home? As a midlife expat mum, I am often asked or think about what is home? Where is home? There is no doubt for me that home is where my immediate family are. We have a tight bond (most of the time!) which I am sure is largely due to the fact we have lived in several places in the world, without a continuous wider support network close by. In fact, I have always […]
- [How to Ground Ourselves in Stressful times (including exam season)](https://emmathornelees.com/thecalmroom/): Whether you are currently: – Supporting loved ones with exams– Having a tough time yourself – Navigating uncertainty or overwhelm– Just unsure of who you are or what you want right now. You are not alone. It is great that you are reaching out for support. That is the first important step. This post has some helpful tools and practices for you and/or your loved ones to shift from fear to calm – especially especially for midlife women doing a lot, feeling a lot and holding a lot. When life feels intense – whether it’s exam season, big transitions/events or […]
- [The Hidden Strain of Being a Midlife Expat Woman - Hypervigilance](https://emmathornelees.com/the-hidden-strain-of-being-a-hypervigilant-expat-woman-in-midlife/): Do you ever catch yourself holding your breath? Noticing tightness in your shoulders or jaw? Not in panic. Just ….. a low-level tension that’s always there. A subtle hum of “what needs fixing?” or “what did I miss?” That’s hypervigilance. It often shows up in midlife women, particularly who live overseas, who’ve had to adapt – again and again – to new roles, countries, expectations and invisible pressures. Maybe you’re the one who makes sure everyone else is ok. Maybe you’ve become excellent at managing logistics, smoothing over awkwardness, reading the room. Maybe no one sees how tightly wound you […]
- [7 Years Sober - Listening to and Trusting me](https://emmathornelees.com/7-years-sober-listening-to-and-trusting-me/): 14th April 2025. Today I am celebrating that it has been 7 years since I last drank alcohol. I use the word celebrate and yet I still notice that the connotation of celebration for me and so much of our culture involves alcohol. And yet, I am very much internally happy and celebrating the fact that I no longer do and have zero desire to drink. Back up to roughly 10 years ago when I first started to notice that alcohol was creating challenges for me, rather than the fun it had in the past. I started noticing that after […]
- [Breakthrough the noise](https://emmathornelees.com/breakthrough-the-noise/): Reconnect to you. Are you ready to break free from: Now is your time. Time to reconnect to you, come home to you to live your next chapter in midlife. Regardless of whether you are dealing with: I get it! I am a midlife woman with teens, living in Spain and have had my own challenges from mental health to having to reinvent myself several times. This free 75 minute workshop will be a gentle space for women like us, maybe living far from ´home´, navigating change or loss, to pause, take a breath, start to reconnect. No pressure. Just […]
- [Midlife and Not Settling](https://emmathornelees.com/midlife-and-not-settling/): In the last couple of weeks I have been acutely aware of how these two things in particular have riled and captured my attention as a 50 something year old woman: 1.  How Saga (OAP holiday company) recently riled me! 2.  Seeing our habitual (often BS) patterns and how as we age sometimes we can get stuck and become caricatures of ourselves – but there is hope! Firstly, on Saga.   On a recent return trip to the UK, I noticed the seemingly incessant adverts for Saga holidays being marketed specifically to 50 year olds (for those who don´t know […]
- [Tales of the Unexpected and the Sandwich Generation](https://emmathornelees.com/tales-of-the-unexpected-and-the-sandwich-generation/): This was not the post I planned to share this week, but life got in the way a bit! My mum fell and broke her hip last week, so I have had an unexpected trip back to the UK and I am very grateful I could be here to help out a bit as she recovers. This week has been another stark reminder of the fragility of life. How things are ever changing, but also how an event can put life as we know it at a bit of a standstill and then we have to pivot. It has made […]
- [Struggling to switch off?](https://emmathornelees.com/struggling-to-switch-off/): Switching off and breaking free from alcohol, food, scrolling to create healthy habits that best support you. I remember, not that long ago when I used to hang out for Friday afternoon, the working week was done and I could have a glass of wine or two and just switch off. If I am honest, I found it hard to escape work, my busy thoughts and mind without it. Needless to say my thoughts were pretty punishing, judging me and, at the time I thought they were helping me to do more and to do it better. I felt I […]
- [Overthinking and Anxiety in Midlife Women: A supportive guide to break free](https://emmathornelees.com/how-to-stop-overthinking-and-reclaim-our-peace-in-midlife/): Introduction: Many midlife women find themselves overthinking—whether it’s rehashing past decisions, worrying about the future, or second-guessing their current choices or just being able to switch off and relax. Overthinking can feel like a constant mental loop that saps your energy, peace of mind and stops us from being fully present or in flow. But why do we overthink, and also importantly, how can we stop? But first and super important and totally counterintuitive for anyone that is feeling like they are stuck or caught in overthinking, sending you lots of compassion and empathy. It is a tough place to […]
- [Positive Intelligence - My experiences](https://emmathornelees.com/positive-intelligence-my-experiences/): As you may have gathered if you have read previous posts, I have spent much of my life tangled in my own head, thoughts, worries, overthinking, second-guessing. I have also spent much of my life struggling with anxiety and sometimes depression, mainly without knowing it in my 20s and early 30s. I have now reached the wonderful age of 51 and can proudly say that I am finally feeling free of so much of what was holding me back. Being actually present to my life. Connected to who I am and what I really want. Calmer, at peace. Trusting myself […]
- [Midlife Realities - Empty nest and facing our kids growing up](https://emmathornelees.com/midlife-realities-empty-nest-and-facing-our-kids-growing-up/): September. Back to school. Kids ´leaving´ home.  Going to uni, on a gap year, moving forward with their lives. The seasons change. The photos of our kids on their next first day of school/uni, compared to their first day at school looms in our memory. Lists and preparations for those leaving home for the first time. Launching into a new chapter, whilst remembering all the previous chapters with us, in our home. Temperatures changing and light fading – another reminder of the passing of time.  The approach of inevitable change and winter (for us in the northern hemisphere at least). […]
- [Is it just me?](https://emmathornelees.com/is-it-just-me/): It is just me?  That worries, ruminates, overthinks, feels overwhelmed, stuck?  The journey to start breaking free........
- [Sitting with difficult stuff.](https://emmathornelees.com/sitting-with-difficult-stuff/): Right now, many of us British parents are waiting for our kids´ exam results. Whether it is for A Levels (at 18 to go to uni/college) or GCSE´s (16 to continue onto A Levels or other higher education) it feels like quite a lot is riding on it (granted more on the A Levels than the GCSEs). As a highly sensitive empath.  I can sense the anticipation, feel the discomfort, the nerves. All of it. It brings back so many memories as I waited for my own A Level results many moons ago as I called up to get mine. […]
- [Summer Sanity: 8 Healthy Habits for Mums Navigating Teens and (the eternal!) School Holidays](https://emmathornelees.com/summer-sanity-8-healthy-habits-for-mums-navigating-teens-and-school-holidays/): As summer arrives and the school doors close, mums (and dads!) find themselves facing a new challenge: navigating the school holidays with teenagers. Here in Spain these last a loooooooong time from mid/end June to mid September. The relaxed schedules and increased free time can sometimes lead to chaos and stress. However, by incorporating essential healthy habits into our routines, we can maintain our sanity and create a more harmonious summer for both us and our teens. In this blog post, we will explore eight essential healthy habits that will help us navigate the school holidays with teenagers and ensure […]
- [Lost and Found: Self-Trust](https://emmathornelees.com/lost-and-found-self-trust/): Many of us as in midlife reflect on patterns and experiences and realise that we have forgotten to trust ourselves. Call it what you want, intuition, gut feeling, inner wisdom, but somewhere along the way this connection with ourselves has weakened. We might feel that we have lost or need to recalibrate our inner compass that guides us through life’s twists and turns. This loss can be particularly hard at a time of life where there is no real manual or societal expectations, where we may start to think about who we are and what we really want (some common […]
- [Embracing the Complexities of Midlife: Insights from Midlife Women](https://emmathornelees.com/embracing-the-complexities-of-midlife-insights-from-real-women/): Midlife, a phase marked by transitions and reflections, serves as a pivotal juncture in our lives. Yes, we talk about midlife crises and trading in partners or our cars, but do we really talk about the day to day realities, challenges and opportunities in our 40s and beyond? Midlife can be a time when we pause to contemplate our past, assess our present circumstances, and ponder the trajectory of our future. Through extensive research and heartfelt conversations with women navigating the terrain of midlife, I’ve unearthed a tapestry of experiences, challenges, and aspirations. In this exploration, we’ll delve deep into […]
- [Want real change in 2024?](https://emmathornelees.com/want-real-change-in-2024/): January again. Start to a fresh year. A blank page. I don´t know about you, but I ditched resolutions many years ago. They never seemed to work that long and ended up being another way to beat myself up about myself, my willpower, anything really. Now people talk more about a word for the year to focus on and open up possibilities. Sounds much more empowering. But, how often do we remember that word throughout the year or when something tough comes up? Even if we have ditched resolutions we still can go into the new year with new expectations, […]
- [The Thrive Tribe - Pro bono pilot with trafficking survivors](https://emmathornelees.com/the-thrive-tribe-pro-bono-pilot-with-trafficking-survivors/): Throughout my life I have worked with ngos, in politics and co-founded a non-profit whilst living in Costa Rica, working to support and empower myself and others has always been very important to me. In this post, I wanted to share a bit about The Thrive Tribe the pilot coaching and personal development program I have launched in partnership with Liluye (a charity/501c3) that I have volunteered with for several years. For me this is the ideal combination of combining my skills as a coach with my voluntary role as I continue to learn and grow each day. Please do […]
- [The Ultimate Question: What is the Purpose of Life for Women in Midlife?](https://emmathornelees.com/the-ultimate-question-what-is-the-purpose-of-life-for-women-in-midlife/):  First up, what does life purpose mean? Yes, this is deep stuff.  The Purpose of Life: Life’s purpose can be defined as the overarching reason for our existence, the driving force that gives our lives meaning and direction. It is the compass that guides our choices, actions, and interactions with the world around us. It isn´t necessarily our career or having a family, we can live our purpose through our hobbies, daily interactions or any combination of things. It is also not a case of just make do and get through the day when we get to midlife or throw […]
- [What almost everyone gets wrong about midlife](https://emmathornelees.com/what-almost-everyone-gets-wrong-about-midlife/): Exposing 4 myths and misinformation about midlife. Contrary to popular belief, many people experience increased happiness and life satisfaction during midlife. Would you agree? From my personal experience I certainly feel freer to do things and care a bit less about what people think now I am 50 (but it is still a work in progress!) However, I have also had a number of years of questioning myself and my life and purpose in my 40´s. Now I have hit my 50´s I certainly feel liberated and a desire to reinvent and reinvigorate myself and my life. I type all […]
- [Do You Ever Feel Invisible?](https://emmathornelees.com/do-you-ever-feel-invisible/): Why feeling invisible is a common experience for midlife women and mums Feeling invisible, overlooked, ignored, or unnoticed by others is something we can all experience at some point during our lives. It can manifest in any area of our life, whether in our relationships, work, or social interactions. Being aware of feeling invisible is the first step toward addressing it effectively. This can often be felt more acutely by women, especially those in midlife or beyond. Society often places less value on women as they age, which can contribute to feelings of invisibility, This can be felt particularly in […]
- [The Journey to Self-Discovery: Why It Matters for Midlife Women and Mums](https://emmathornelees.com/the-journey-to-self-discovery-why-it-matters-for-midlife-women-and-mums/): How does Self Discovery help yourself? According to research around 60% of women report feeling disconnected from their true selves Sound familiar to you? I have heard women (including myself in the past) share how they don´t know who they really are anymore.    Feeling lost.  Feeling like something is missing.  We have been so caught up with our kids, careers, family………….. life, that we have lost sight of ourselves.  This is particularly the case during midlife where so many things can rise up to the surface as we start to reasssess our lives, our priorities, our legacy. I have learn […]
- [How to Stop Being a People Pleaser](https://emmathornelees.com/how-to-stop-being-a-people-pleaser/): Understanding the People Pleasing Phenomenon People pleasing is pretty common, especially amongst us women. In fact, perhaps unsurprisingly approximately 85% of people-pleasers are women. So what is people pleasing? Prioritising others, doing or saying what we ´think´ we should do and generally thinking about everyone else. People pleasing is a behavior pattern in which individuals prioritise the needs and desires of others over their own. Where does people pleasing come from and how can it affect us? It appears that people comes so much from the way in which we are conditioned. Us women are told from an early age […]
- [Nurture Yourself: A Guide to Midlife Self Care for Busy Mums](https://emmathornelees.com/nurture-yourself-a-guide-to-midlife-self-care-for-busy-mums/): Why is Self Care in Midlife is Crucial for Mums? First up, what is self-care? Self-care is any activity that we do deliberately in order to take care of our mental, emotional, and physical health. It is different for each of us. To find out more about why important, particularly in midlife when we can face unique challenges which can affect our confidence and mental health check out my previous post: The Power of Self-Care: 6 Benefits for Midlife Mums – Inner Expat and also this post with powerful insights from midlife women. In a nutshell, Self-care is important for […]
- [The Power of Self-Care: 6 Benefits for Midlife Mums](https://emmathornelees.com/the-power-of-self-care-6-benefits-for-midlife-mums/): Self Care: What is it and Why is it Important? Self care is not just about a day at the spa, a bath, box of chocolates or a glass of wine………… Self-care is any activity that we do deliberately in order to take care of our mental, emotional, and physical health. In this post we will explore the five key benefits of self-care, discuss why self-care is essential, and highlight the profound connection between self-care, self knowledge, self esteem and confidence. All of which is critical, especially for us ´midlifers´ (please help me think of a new term for!!) As […]
- [Conquer Procrastination: Empowering Midlife Women to Overcome Our Productivity Roadblocks](https://emmathornelees.com/conquer-procrastination-empowering-midlife-women-to-overcome-our-productivity-roadblocks/): I suspect that we all know that procrastination is a sneaky thief that robs us of our time, energy, and productivity. Yet it happens to us all.  It is totally normal.  It affects people from all walks of life, including women in ´midlife´ who often face unique challenges and responsibilities. Whether it’s managing a career, taking care of a family, or pursuing personal goals, procrastination can hinder progress and lead to feelings of frustration, self blame and overwhelm. However, by understanding the underlying causes and implementing effective strategies, we can conquer procrastination and reclaim our time, energy and productivity and […]
- [Konenki: A totally different and empowered approach to Menopause!!](https://emmathornelees.com/konenki-an-empowered-approach-to-menopause/): When you think of menopause what does it bring up for you? Change? Health? Unknown? Beginnings? Endings? Not sure? Help?! Menopause is generally understood in the west to a phase of life that brings about significant changes in a woman’s body, both physically and emotionally. It’s a subject that has been widely discussed in Western cultures, often in hushed tones and accompanied by a sense of dread or negativity. But, wait there! How about a totally different way of looking at it? In Japan, the perception of menopause is totally different. In this blog post, we’ll explore the Japanese word […]
- [Intuitive Eating - Honour your Health with Gentle Nutrition](https://emmathornelees.com/intuitive-eating-honour-your-health-with-gentle-nutrition/): Yes! At last I am on the 10th, and last, principle of my Intuitive Eating journey, which is all about gentle nutrition or how I prefer to call it – food to feel good! In some ways it feels a bit incongruent to have a chapter on nutrition when the rest of the principles have been about listening to our bodies, but loving our bodies is also an important part and Evelyn Tribole and Elyse Resch go to great pains to frame this chapter in a way that supports rather than prescribes, it is not an easy balance. This is […]
- [Intuitive Eating - Movement Feel the Difference](https://emmathornelees.com/intuitive-eating-movement-feel-the-difference/): So, here we are on the Intuitive Eating journey again and now on Principle 9 of Intuitive Eating – movement feel the difference or how I prefer to look at it – get your body moving in a way that feels goooooooooood to you! We all knew that this principle was coming! But the Intuitive Eating approach and trusty book has a totally different approach to movement and exercise in a way that tunes in, listens to and respects our bodies. It follows on pretty naturally with the last principle of ´Respecting Your Body´ and invites us to think of […]
- [Intuitive Eating - Respect Our Body](https://emmathornelees.com/intuitive-eating-respect-your-body/): After a bit of a break, I am back to my Intuitive Eating journey and now for Principle 8 – Respect Your (Our) Body.  The basics of which is: respecting that we are all different and our bodies are all different too.  Sounds straight-forward and yet the reality is not quite so! Whilst we know that if we have a size 6 shoe, we don´t (usually!) try and fit a size 3 or 8 shoe on our foot and then criticise the size and shape of our foot.  The same doesn´t apply for our body.  When do we respect the […]
- [Intuitive Eating Journey - Coping with feelings with kindness and without food](https://emmathornelees.com/intuitive-eating-journey-coping-with-feelings-with-kindness-and-without-food/): Phew, that is a long title! So, in this post I am reviewing my experience with Principle 7 and what I learnt from my reading and self-exploration this week. If you haven´t ready my first post about ´Coping with your feelings with Kindness´ then I suggest you check it out first. This review is based on my experiences and also working with the Intuitive Eating handbook and the exercises in there. This Principle is basically inviting us to explore how we may have used food beyond beyond a source of nourishment and satisfaction and exploring what is going on and […]
- [Intuitive Eating - Coping with Feelings with kindness](https://emmathornelees.com/cope-with-your-feelings-with-kindness/): So, back to it, 2023 and a new start! Except I feel like it is more of a reminder for me on my journey with Intuitive Eating which I embarked on many months ago.  I have to admit, whilst I was aware of being more intuitive over the festive period, there was certainly times where I was not listening to my body (and that is ok!). I am aware that I was just going along with what the Christmas traditions and not wanting to ´miss out´ on some things so I have been reflecting a bit on that and bringing […]
- [Intuitive Eating - Feel your Fullness Review](https://emmathornelees.com/intuitive-eating-feel-your-fullness-review/): Now it is time for me to review what I have learnt and experienced about ´Feeling my Fullness´ having explored this in depth in my previous post. Since then I have tried to be more present to my body´s sensations whilst eating and have also gone through the workbook and its´ exercises to try and tune in and integrate this principle further. First up I have to say that I often find it difficult to know when I am hungry and when I am full. I feel this is a combination of many years of dieting and restriction and also […]
- [Intuitive Eating - Feel your Fullness](https://emmathornelees.com/intuitive-eating-feel-your-fullness/): Now I have reached Principle 6, ´Feel your Fullness´ in my Intuitive Eating journey and a natural follow-on from ´Discover the Satisfaction Factor´ or Principle 5. Yet again we are invited to tune into our bodies to listen to to what degree we are full at various points during our meals and how much we are enjoying what we are eating. Again, sounds simple! However, being a serial dieter can leave us to being accustomed to finishing all that is on our plate regardless of our fullness level (as is the norm according to the Intuitive Eating book). I can […]
- [Intuitive Eating - Discover the Satisfaction Factor or The Pleasure of Eating Review](https://emmathornelees.com/intuitive-eating-discover-the-satisfaction-factor-or-the-pleasure-of-eating-review/): If you haven´t read my post regarding all of this Fifth Principle of Intuitive Eating, it is worth reading it first to get the full low down (or go here to go to the very start of my Intuitive Eating journey). Now I am reviewing it using my handy workbook with it´s very useful exercises (especially for this Principle). First up to say this Principle is all about enjoying eating and eating what we find truly satisfying or pleasurable in that moment without any barriers in our way (e.g the food police!). If you are anything like me that I […]
- [Intuitive Eating - Discover the Satisfaction Factor or The Pleasure of Eating](https://emmathornelees.com/intuitive-eating-discover-the-satisfaction-factor-or-the-pleasure-of-eating/): I am halfway through the 10 Intuitive Eating Principles! Now learning about the fifth one, ´Discover the Satisfaction Factor´ or as I prefer to call it ´The Pleasure of Eating´. If you are new to my Intuitive Eating journey please check out the post which started it all off which also has links to all the principles I´ve covered thus far! This sounds like the most straightforward principle of all I´ve covered on the face of it and I have whizzed through the chapter on it in my Intuitive Eating book but, (there is always a but!), I know it […]
- [Intuitive Eating - Challenge the Food Police Review](https://emmathornelees.com/intuitive-eating-challenge-the-food-police-review/): So a couple of weeks back, I wrote about the Fourth Principle of Intuitive Eating, Challenge the Food Police, as usual I have since reflected on the period since learning about it and also spent some time going through the Intuitive Eating workbook and exercises. I found this section of the workbook the most helpful and empowering so far as it has provided some really helpful ways of reframing thinking and empowering ourselves to change our mindsets around our thoughts and behaviours. The workbook does cover some of the same material as the original book,I find it a bit more […]
- [Intuitive Eating - Challenge the Food Police](https://emmathornelees.com/intuitive-eating-challenge-the-food-police/): I have now been exploring intuitive eating quite deeply for a few months and sharing my Intuitive Eating journey on the blog to help reinforce my learning and hopefully help someone else too. I am now on Principle Four – Challenge the Food Police (for the previous Principles 1 – Reject Diet Culture, 2 – Honour your Hunger and Making Peace with Food please check out my previous posts. Challenging the Food Police follows on pretty well with the previous Principle of Making Peace with Food (which is still very much a work in progress for me). As ever, I […]
- [Intuitive Eating - Making Peace with Food Review](https://emmathornelees.com/intuitive-eating-making-peace-with-food-review/): Having read up about Making Peace with Food, I have embarked this week on the workbook reading and exercises, which I found easier to follow than the main book. Particularly the explanation around habituation where dieting stops us from having the effect of being comfortable around some foods which can result in bingeing. It was also interesting to learn that dieting can increase the stress response by triggering our bodies to make more cortisol, the stress hormone (Tomiyama et al. 2010) which for some can lead to more eating or other habits to try and relieve stress. The exercises included […]
- [Intuitive Eating - Make Peace with Food](https://emmathornelees.com/intuitive-eating-make-peace-with-food/): So now we have covered Principle One – Reject Diet Mentality and Two – Honour your Hunger, we are onto Principle Three – Make Peace with food! Intuitive Eating is certainly proving to be an interesting and empowering journey for me so far, and I am keen to keep learning and exploring more. As ever, I am using my trusty Intuitive Eating book and then deliving into it more with the reading and exercises in the workbook when I review each principle for several days or more, while trying to integrate the information. So, what is ´Making Peace with Food´ […]
- [Intuitive Eating - Honour your Hunger Review](https://emmathornelees.com/intuitive-eating-honour-your-hunger-review/): So it has been over a week since I learnt more about Principle 2, Honour your Hunger (or Honor if you are from North America!) as part of my Intuitive Eating journey. I am enjoying the process so far and finding that reading the books, doing the exercises and trying to at least think about it/take notes each day is helping me integrate. Writing these posts is also holding me accountable which I find particularly helpful. Some of my key observations from ‘Honour your Hunger’ this last week or so are: I have noticed that I am not as hungry […]
- [Intuitive Eating - Honour your hunger](https://emmathornelees.com/intuitive-eating-honour-your-hunger/): As I continue my journey into Intuitive Eating, this week I am learning about Principle 2, Honour (honor in the book) your hunger (Principle 1 was ‘Reject Diets‘). Honour your hunger – again this sounds pretty simple, as was rejecting diets, but easier said than done. After years of western conditioning and even more so if you have been a dieter/restrictor or had rules around food, it is far more challenging to pay attention to your body and hear its’ signals. I also like to look at this as nourishing your body – by paying attention to when it needs […]
- [Intuitive Eating - Rejecting Diet Culture Review](https://emmathornelees.com/intuitive-eating-rejecting-diet-culture-review/): I am in the early stages of my Intuitive Eating journey (more in this earlier post), I have obviously read and reflected on the first principle: rejecting diet culture. I am taking some time out to reflect each day about where I have witnessed diet culture in society and myself and how I may be consciously or sub-consciously restricting myself. The first thing I have been aware of is that I am still clinging to a hope that I will get thinner during this process. That may well the case as I am working to listen to my body about […]
- [Intuitive Eating - Reject diets](https://emmathornelees.com/intuitive-eating-reject-diets/): After a long break from blogging and initially starting my exploration of reconnecting to my body and Intuitive Eating, I am back!   I’m not sure what has happened this year, but it only feels like recently I have got any sense of momentum.  This expat might blame it on having COVID-19 and a very slow recovery early this year, but think that is just an excuse!  The main thing is that I am back now 🙂 I have ‘done’ many diets, exercise plans, read and listened to many experts about how I should nourish and move my body over […]
- [When the universe tests you...](https://emmathornelees.com/when-the-universe-tests-you/): At the start of the year I set the intention to listen to my body more. I spend a lot of time in my mind (as most of us do), but wanted to start really listening to me. Listening to what I wanted and needed, rather than my kids or anyone else – whether it came to activities, food, whatever. I have been always pretty good at putting other people’s needs before my own (classic woman/mum thing) and whilst I have got better at listening to my own needs, there is still some work to go. In my embodied state […]
- [My Intuitive Eating Journey](https://emmathornelees.com/my-intuitive-eating-journey/): Please don’t let the title put you off! I know everyone has had their fill of articles on weight loss, diets, fads, exercise routines, I don’t think I need to go on. And I know I have certainly had enough of the whole ‘perfect body’ culture, that anyone is less than if they don’t conform to some stereotypical magazine image (which are usually photoshopped). I have been on a myriad of diets, weight-loss programmes, exercise regimes in the last 30+ years to reach my ‘goal weight’ my ‘ideal body shape’. Until recently, never once has it occurred to me that […]
- [Questioning our culture](https://emmathornelees.com/questioning-our-culture/): Last week I received the following message from our new neighbours: “Would you like to come over for a wine (or some beer)?” This might seem like a totally innocuous question. Normal even. But it left me feeling quite angry. Why? You might ask. Because drinking is so acceptable, ‘normal’ in our culture, that anything else seems ‘abnormal’. Back to the start. I have not drunk alcohol for 4 years in April. It is not anything I want accolades for, I have done it for myself. I am glad I did and if I am honest, I am actually quite […]
- [11 Tips for Mind Body Spirit Connection](https://emmathornelees.com/11-tips-for-mind-body-spirit-connection/): I don’t know about you, but I have noticed that most of the time I am living up in my head. In other words focusing on doing, planning, ruminating and sometimes not being really present when my kids or partner are talking with me. It is actually not a nice feeling. Pretty numb. Feels like you are on auto-pilot and nothing really feels like you are getting or giving any value. Like am not being my best or really being me. By which I mean a conversation is not as connected as it can be, a meal is just made […]
- [Conscious Connection](https://emmathornelees.com/conscious-connection/): One of the great things about having lived in a few different countries is that you have friends all over the world. One of the not so great things about having lived in a few different countries is that you have friends all over the world. It is obviously wonderful in so many ways to be an expat and have friends all over the place, the hard part is maintaining and developing those friendships when you are far apart. It is far easier to get swept up in the day to day existence. Whilst I do largely subscribe to the […]
- [Feeling Peripheral](https://emmathornelees.com/peripheral/): I don’t think I am alone, but sometimes it feels lonely. Maybe that’s life. We all feel lonely sometimes. But the pandemic has certainly heightened and exacerbated any loneliness or isolation we might have felt beforehand. As Sheryl Paul so eloquently puts it: “There’s a fundamental loneliness that is part of the fabric of being human. It arrives in the corners of night, when shadows form from curtain folds and the backs of chairs. It seeps in just before twilight, when afternoon exhales its last breath and evening hasn’t yet inhaled. It lives on the edges of exaltation, in the […]
- [There is no place like home - but where is home?](https://emmathornelees.com/there-is-no-place-like/): We have just been fortunate to go back to our native UK (well native for my husband and I at least) since the pandemic started. About 20 months since we last saw our parents, my siblings, niece and nephew. It felt weird planning to go and constantly preparing ourselves that it might not happen due to test results, rule changes, whatever! Even after a couple of days of being back in London, it didn’t feel real as I had arrived – possibly having over-prepared myself for not being there! (I also have to say that I am extremely conscious of […]
- [Self Care: Setting Boundaries](https://emmathornelees.com/self-care-setting-boundaries/): So I haven’t written the blog for quite some time now and decided that today was the day to start getting back into the rhythm of it again.  The past several weeks have been hectic as we have bought a house (yippee after renting for 10+ years!) and had quite a lot of stuff to sort out before we started renovations.  It is quite an achievement for me to hold off on not continuing to write this each week during this busy time.  In the past I would have been up all hours writing this, doing social media, etc and […]
- [4 tips to help with transitions for children](https://emmathornelees.com/4-tips-to-help-with-transitions-for-children/): Being a parent we have to deal with 101, sometimes 1001 transitions a day with our children. Whether it is getting them up and to school or childcare in the morning, moving them from technology to the dinner table or the bedtime routine to name just a few.  These all require a lot of patience and sometimes planning to deal with plus some awareness around our stress points on a day to day basis.  But, how about the bigger transitions?  The moving house, starting or change of school, a new baby on the way, moving country, family separation or divorce, […]
- [Finding Life Purpose. Finding 'It', Finding me](https://emmathornelees.com/finding-life-purpose-finding-it-finding-me/): As an expat mum over the last 13 ½ years I have been fortunate enough to explore the possibilities of how to use my own time.  I have been a mum of two too, so it has not all been lunches out and sipping cocktails by the pool, but there has been a degree of flexibility.  With my husband’s work it has not been necessary (or easy at times having 2 kids and his work travel) for me to get a job, plus I also feel quite fortunate that I ‘did’ a lot of my career prior to having kids […]
- [The fear of Settling down](https://emmathornelees.com/settling-down-meaning/): So, we have just put down a deposit to buy a house here in Spain.  For us – the husband, two kids, dog and I to live in.  Forever (as much as forever can be).  How exciting, you might say, especially after renting and living abroad as an expat for so many years.  Finally being able to settle down in one place and put down some roots.  And yes, it is exciting to know we will be able to create a family base, for memories for years to come, but I have to be honest and say it has also […]
- [How to learn or get Spanish Lessons free (or cheap!)](https://emmathornelees.com/spanish-lessons-for-free/): Learn Spanish: Whether you are living abroad as an expat in Spain, South, Central America or the US, plan to live overseas or just want to learn Spanish for fun, we have some tips for you on some easy and tried and tested ways to do just that.  Learning the language certainly helps with day to day life and to create a sense of belonging which can be a challenge when moving to a new country and community. We are sharing some resources below which will help with this and on top of that – most are free AND based […]
- [Where do expats belong?](https://emmathornelees.com/sense-of-belong/): One question that I have been asking myself a lot recently, is where do I belong?   I have lived in the UK most of my life, but leaving there to live abroad in Australia nearly 15 years ago, then Costa Rica and now Spain.  I am relatively used to the feeling of not belonging to one place or culture and having a unique sense of belonging to my immediate family.  Moving to Australia, it was generally quite easy to adapt and feel some sense of belonging, I even found myself supporting Australia in some sports after nearly 8 years […]
- [Where is the best place to live in Spain?](https://emmathornelees.com/best-place-to-live-in-spain/): In 2018 we decided we wanted to live and work in Spain, to be back living in Europe, closer to family in the UK and settle for the long term.  We were fortunate that we could choose where we wanted to live in Spain due to my husband working remotely so our main priorities were schools for our kids (10 and 9 at the time) and quality of life for us all.  This post will take you inside our decision making process and ‘look see’ trip for how we finally decided where to live in Spain.     So we embarked on […]
- [Special occasions (or the festive season) apart](https://emmathornelees.com/christmas-apart-from-loved-ones/): So, in late November whilst I was idly wandering around a supermarket, some jaunty Christmas music of old started playing over the sound system.  Quite suddenly I felt tears spring up in my eyes.  Where on earth had this come from?  I was quite surprised and, no it wasn’t because they were playing Slade in November. I was sad.  It was a pain in my chest, a heaviness in my heart, almost grief-like. It was deep pain about not seeing my family and having the family Christmas that maybe I had envisaged, but never acknowledged.  Whilst I wiped my tears, […]
- [Celebrating when not together](https://emmathornelees.com/__celebrating-when-apart/): Ok, so we have felt our feelings and talked about them (and if you haven’t yet, then read this post here!)  The next step is how can we still have a meaningful Christmas, New Year, Easter or Birthday (any special occasion really!) with whoever we spend it with and also develop connection with those other friends and family near and far? Here are some practical ways that we can make the best of the season and still feel connected to those near and far – whether family or friends: Just a few ideas to help make this holiday period special […]
- [Time to break out of our bubbles?](https://emmathornelees.com/expat-connection-matters/): I don’t know about you, but I feel like I am turning into a bit of a hermit. Yes, I might live with my husband and two kids and speak to a few people online, meet a friend for an occasional walk maybe; Apart from that not a lot else. The rest of my social life now exists as intermittent WhatsApp messages with groups of expat and other friends around the globe or the odd personal message. Compare that to nearly a year ago with the seemingly incessant WhatsApp messages, the panic and flurry of information. The bombardment of zoom […]
- [23 Tips to Help Expats Strengthen Their Relationships](https://emmathornelees.com/tips-expats-make-relationship-stronger/): How can you strengthen your relationship with your partner whilst living abroad? Whether you are a living overseas or not, it will probably come as no surprise that according to experts strong close romantic and social relationships are more likely to lead to being very happy and also to living longer.   Obviously they can make our day to day existence, particularly during these difficult times, far brighter, but equally if things aren’t going as well as we would like or are even coasting along, they can leave us feeling indifferent and lonely or downright sad.   It is even […]
- [Are our relationships in a pandemic rut?](https://emmathornelees.com/are-our-relationships-in-a-pandemic-rut/): The reality of our relationships (whether together or apart) in a pandemic. If you are facing any kind of domestic abuse, please find a list of resources at the end of this post and do reach out for help. With us now being over 10 months into the pandemic, it is safe to say that many of us are on autopilot and navigating the day to day as best we can.  Whilst the rules and recommendations from country to country or even town to town might be different, we are all dealing with unprecedented times in our own way.  At […]
- [Expat, immigrant, migrant, nomad or what?](https://emmathornelees.com/expat-or-immigrant/): Should we find an alternative for the term expat? In searching to name my blog, I have found myself challenged by others and myself about using the term ‘expat’.  I have to admit it is not a word that I would use to describe myself, but I can’t think of another term that fits.  On further research, it seems that I am not alone. So, what is an expat? Originally the word expatriate comes from the Latin terms ex (‘out of’) and patria (‘country, fatherland’)”. The dictionary definition is:  Expat: A person who lives outside their native country. So technically, […]
- [Blog name - my epic fail.](https://emmathornelees.com/unintentional-blog-fail/): Here is my story: how to totally screw up your blog name. So, when choosing this expat blog name I did the usual, brainstorming, asking friends and family, thinking about my audience, the topics etc.   I read articles like this one to help me get creative, used a thesaurus, etc etc.   You get the idea. How do you choose a blog name? When choosing a blog name you obviously want something that resonates and is sticky (as in you can remember it) and I was thinking about what my niche was and how it is different to other expat […]
- [New Habits, New Start,  New Year](https://emmathornelees.com/new-year-new-start/): One of the things that I have loved about starting a new life in a different country or location as an expat is that opportunity it presents.  A chance of a new start to do things differently.  Granted it is a little extreme to do that just for the sake of starting something new, but it does feel like a blank sheet of paper. And similarly the start of a new year can feel like a new opportunity.   We may be already in the second week of 2021, but I only really consider it a new start when the […]
- [An Expat Family Christmas?](https://emmathornelees.com/unexpected-family-christmas/): Just a few weeks ago, we had reconciled ourselves to having just the four of us for Christmas where we live on the Costa del Sol. With my family in London and my husband’s in Essex, Newcastle and elsewhere in Spain, it looked just logistically too difficult, expensive and we obviously also didn’t want to put our parents at risk. We talked about delaying our family Christmas celebrations until Easter, and then until Summer once we realised things might take a bit longer than we initially thought. The challenges of living far away from family and friends, especially at Christmas. […]
- [A Totally Different Festive Season](https://emmathornelees.com/totally-different-christmas/): Whether you celebrate Christmas, Hannukah or not, there are a number of things to get your head around the festive season when living abroad.  There is no year that this has been truer than this.  But, not being in your native country can be an amazingly enriching experience, whilst bringing up some mixed emotions. I remember our first Australian Christmas when the kids were very small and my attempts to bring over all our UK traditions, particularly the food ones. I spent half the day in the kitchen cooking a roast while it was 30+ degrees outside, having to eat […]
- [Inner Expat - a different expat blog](https://emmathornelees.com/different-expat-blog/): In our wedding speech, my dad said that I like to do things that terrify me, and he was right. Moving countries, travelling around India alone in my 20’s, getting married, having kids, pushing myself out of my comfort zone, they are all a little terrifying. As is starting this. Anyway, here goes…. My name is Emma, I am 48 years old and I’m British, but currently live in the Costa del Sol, Spain.  I’m married to a Brit and we have two kids aged 12 and 11, who have actually never lived in the UK.    How did I end […]

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- [Start here](https://emmathornelees.com/start-here/): Not sure where to begin? If you’ve found your way to this page, chances are you’re feeling a bit ´untethered. Maybe the life you’ve built overseas looks great on paper, but inside, you feel noisy, overwhelmed, or perhaps just a little bit lost in the middle of it all. You don’t need a massive life overhaul. You just need a way back to yourself. Why I do this work I spent years thinking that if I just found the right location, the right house, the right routine, the right job/business, I’d finally feel settled, at peace (particularly having struggled with […]
- [Saltwater Sisters](https://emmathornelees.com/saltwater-sisters/): Welcome to the Saltwater Sisters! You don’t need another thing to add to your life. You need to feel like yourself again. Saltwater Sisters is a simple but powerful ritual –where women come together to do something brave, wake up their bodies, and reconnect to who they are. This isn’t about swimming.It’s about who you become when you step into the water. 🌊 What it feels like You arrive maybe a little unsure…and leave feeling different. It’s not just invigorating.It’s identity-shifting. You start to think:“I’m someone who shows up.” 🤝 You don’t do this alone This is the part people […]
- [Sober Socials](https://emmathornelees.com/sober-socials-on-the-costa-del-sol/): – Non-drinkers, not boring– A space for a buzzing sober scene– Connecting like-minded women Join us (me, Emma and Louise Hazleden) and our fresh new community for like-minded women to connect and have fun on the Costa del Sol – all alcohol free. Whether you are are sober curious, a drinker, mindful drinker,not been drinking for a while – Sober Socials are for you. We have fun and adventures simply without having alcohol at the centre with free and paid events in person on the Costa del Sol and online. For more information and to join us visit our website. […]
- [Collective Calling](https://emmathornelees.com/collective-calling/): Break free from your saboteurs. Your mind is your best friend. But it can also be your worst enemy. Every day, your mind is sabotaging or blocking your performance/work, wellbeing and your relationships. In fact all your negative emotions, including stress, are the result of your self-sabotage.   If you are curious to learn about breakthrough, research-based tools that strengthen the part of your brain that serves you and quiet the part that sabotages you; So you handle life’s challenges with a more positive and resourceful mindset, and less stress book in for your complimentary 60 minute Saboteur Exploration Session with me, […]
- [Welcome!](https://emmathornelees.com/uncoveryoursaboteurs/): Every day, your mind is sabotaging or blocking your performance/work, wellbeing and your relationships. In fact all your negative emotions, including stress, are the result of your self-sabotage.   Curious to find out exactly what is in your way? Take the Saboteur Assessment. If you enter my email address – hello@emmathornelees.com as your coach, your results will also be sent to me and we can have a free impactful 60 minute Saboteur Exploration Session with me. Together we will learn more about your unique saboteurs, how they impact your work/performance, relationships and health and wellbeing and how we can start to break free from […]
- [Your mind is your best friend. But it can also be your worst enemy.](https://emmathornelees.com/nosh/): Every day, your mind is sabotaging your performance, wellbeing and your relationships. All your negative emotions, including stress, are the result of your self-sabotage. Would you like to find out your unique saboteurs and how they are impacting your wellbeing, relationships and work/performance? For all noshlings I am offering a 60 minute free exploration with me, Emma, to find out how they impact you, why they are there and how you can start to break free from them? Book in today your free session by the end of November: https://tidycal.com/emmathornelees/saboteur-exploration-session Take good care, Emma
- [Revive and Thrive 2024](https://emmathornelees.com/revive-and-thrive-2024/): Break free from feeling: To create a fresh start that works for you. Here are all the recordings of Revive and Thrive – available until Saturday 12th October. Day One – Kickstart our fresh start together! Day 2 – Getting into it – the nitty gritty of what we want to create for ourselves/our lives. Day Three – What keeps us stuck – self-sabotage and our unique saboteurs. Day 4 – Breaking free from what is holding us back. Day 5 – What next? Moving Forward – action! Plus my invitation for you…….. Congratulations on creating your fresh start to […]
- [Empowered Positive Intelligence and FAQs](https://emmathornelees.com/empowered-positive-intelligence-and-faqs/): Go from survive to thrive! More in depth information more below and FAQs (or book in for a call with me for any queries). For the more headline information head here: 6-Week Foundation You get to build a foundation of mental fitness by strengthening three critical mental muscles to shift the balance of power from your inner Saboteurs (your negative self) to your inner Sage (your positive self). Week 1 – Self-Command MuscleThrough a breakthrough process called PQ Reps, you get to boost your Self-Command muscle. Each PQ Rep only takes 10 seconds and can be done with eyes open […]
- [Transformational Stories](https://emmathornelees.com/transformational-stories/): Feedback from some of my clients about working with me: Emma helped me through a difficult period, searching for direction & my meaning in life. She helped me Take control, feel strong and capable. She was an absolute inspiration. I highly recommend her to anyone needing a guiding light to work their way forward. She will help you feel strong, recognise your qualities and make your own clear decisions¨. Shelly Simons. “I 10000000% recommend coaching with Emma Lees – she helped me regroup and is awesome”. Kristin. Vaugn “I’m happy to say that at the moment, Emma was the best thing […]
- [Empowered Positive Intelligence](https://emmathornelees.com/empoweredpositiveintelligence/): Want to break free of what exactly is holding you back and create supportive lasting change by summer? You may have invested in programmes, workshops, courses before or worked with a coach and the effects have just fizzled out. It can lead us to feeling like it was our fault, we didn´t have what it takes, willpower, stamina, intelligence, time, money, whatever. We can end up blaming ourselves. What if none of that was true and it was actually something else that was in our way? Our mind is our best friend. But it can also be our worst enemy. […]
- [Revive & Thrive FREE Reboot - join us!](https://emmathornelees.com/reviveandthrive/): It is not too late to join! Recordings are available. Email me, Emma at hello@emmathornelees.com and you can also break free to create a fresh start that works for you. Our FREE 5 day reboot to break free of overwhelm, old patterns and habits to create a fresh start that works for you – in just 20 minutes a day! Also there is our FREE Facebook community for midlife women to get support, community together. The sign-up above seems to be working for some and not for others so please email me if it doesn´t work for you at hello@emmathornelees.com […]
- [Empower You!](https://emmathornelees.com/empower-you-emma-thorne-lees/): Join my fabulous free community for midlife women like you: www.facebook.com/reviveandthriveinmidlife To find out more about working with me and having a FREE 30 minute chat, with zero obligation (obviously!) book in here: https://tidycal.com/emmathornelees/30… To sign up to the FREE Reboot: Revive and Thrive – to break free of overwhelm, old patterns and habits to create a fresh start that works for you – in just 20 minutes a day over 5 days! Some of my other content: Konenki – an empowered approach to menopause Overthinking and Anxiety in Midlife Women: A supportive guide to break free Thanks so much for being […]
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